Recharge Your Career and Your Life

by Mary Lou Quinlan

Have you ever imagined what it would be like to take a break from working so hard and have real time to relax and figure out what’s next in your career? If your answer is, “sure, but I can’t right now,” think again.

I felt the same way until 25 years of overworking added up to too many working weekends, too many emails, and too much caring about the job instead of what really mattered in my life.

I was so starved for a break that I harbored a secret fantasy that I would get hit by a car—not a life-threatening accident, just enough to get me off my feet and off-limits to everybody’s demands. And it wasn’t until I took my own self-imposed five-week sabbatical that I was able to reflect and, even better, create a revised career more aligned with who I am and what I love.

If you’re on the fence about taking a leap, I’ll bet these are your roadblocks.

One, many women are reluctant to give themselves permission to rest. Sometimes, we are our own toughest boss. Imagine a boss who never takes no for an answer and who constantly pushes you to achieve more yet is reluctant to give you precious and needed time off. It’s time to let yourself off the hook.

The second roadblock is likely tied to fears about money and job security. “If I leave this job, I won’t get another.” “I can’t afford it.” Financial uncertainty might be your reason, but it doesn’t have to be a barrier.

If you are thinking that you need a break, but won’t or can’t do it now, here are three things to do to start your tune up:

• Take a gut check. Picture yourself six months from now, doing the same job, the same way, with the same people. How do you feel? Excited? Queasy? Your gut check will tell you if it’s time to make a plan now.


• Watch for your wakeup call. Have you noticed that your mood is getting testy? Have you put off medical checkups for work reasons? Are you exercising less, eating badly, or just stressing out? These are warning signs that you may need a break fast.


• Start small. Try a hooky day. The next time you’re traveling for business stay an extra day on your own.
  
  

Look in the mirror and reflect on your life, your path. You’ll be surprised at the light that shines back.

Mary Lou Quinlan is the author of “Time Off for Good Behavior, How Hardworking Women Can Take a Break and Change Their Lives.”